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Every relationship in life is built around communication. Is your relationship suffering from lack of it?
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Relationships can suffer from lack of communication, which forces people to act in ways that are not normal. Often it is our egos that take the wheel, as we believe we're always right.
No one is perfect. However, men can become narrow minded, stubborn, and insecure - from there it stems into a downward spiral of dysfunction within the relationship. This is why most men fail in their relationships with women.
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Men are not totally at fault here - women are not much better either. However, some females are better at conflict resolution. It doesn't matter who's more to blame, we can all benefit from enhancing our communication skills.
Listening, is a wonderful way to start. You'd be surprised how many people don't know how to do this. Listening is not difficult, however it does require patience - something most men don't have much of for very long.
You must be able to concentrate on what your partner is saying. The best way to do this is by focusing on body language. Being patient also helps because it shows you are willing to put forth the effort to understand. Having humility and not getting upset while your partner speaks their mind is another wonderful virtue. You must forget about always being right and be willing to let the other person have the last word.
Time also plays a factor. You have to actually take the time to work things out and communicate. You make time for everything else in your life, so why not take the time to make a relationship work. Make an effort for "alone time", and talk about things that are going on in your life. It boils down to making sure you understand what the other person wants and needs.
Doing things together is another good way to talk about what you're not happy with in the relationship. You must truly want to see things change for the better. Making the time and doing things together is a combined effort.
Pay attention to non-verbal communication as well. You should always know when your partner is upset with something. If you don't realize this, then you don't care. Non-verbal communication serves as an instant sign in regards to your partner's feelings. It doesn't matter what words they're using, body language will show their true emotions. Reading movements, facial expressions, gestures, and tone of voice are all helpful indicators of one's emotions.
Men are naturally competitive which pushes them to try and win every fight. This carries over into a relationship, and after a while the woman will start to resent them for it. Let your partner know you care - no matter how intense the argument becomes.
People pretend to listen but don't actually give a damn about what the other person is saying. They're preoccupied with other things. People try to turn the tables around and use their partners own words against them. It makes them feel better about themselves. Sometimes there's no communication at all - no compassion, which leaves the other party questioning the solidity of the relationship.
It is a harsh truth that many individuals are insensitive and selfish. However, some of these individuals can't help it. In some cases they just don't know how to care - or love for that matter. This may stem from different issues. Often, it starts with the inner self. If someone is not happy with themselves inside or suffering from different issues, then they're not likely going to posses the ability needed in order to make a relationship work.
It's a sad reality, however being insecure and feeling undeserving of something good, can psychologically inhibit you from communicating properly.
If you actually care about your partner, then take the time to understand them. Everyone has needs and desires - no ones perfect, however if you actually want to listen, understand and solve - then it's not hard. Have patience, humility, and be willing to compromise. You'll get much further in addressing your arguments.
TIPS ON IMPROVING COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR PARTNER
- Be empathetic towards your partners feelings.
- Ask questions.
- Don't stereotype.
- Don't assume things.
- Focus on what your partner is trying to say.
- Don't jump to conclusions.
- Read body language.
- Focus on the issue not the person.
- Be genuine and flexible.
- Present yourself as an equal rather than a superior.
- Have patience.
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