|7 Lovemaking Mistakes That Couples Make and How To Avoid Them
|Did you know that people who try to spice up their lovemaking, often make their experiences LESS fulfilling? It’s true.
| By Michael Webb
Over the years, I've seen couples make the same
mistakes over and over again, when trying to
improve their love lives, and I'd like to teach you
how to overcome and avoid these problems.
Here are the 7 lovemaking mistakes. Are you making
MISTAKE #1: Feeling scared or embarrassed to talk
about trying new things
Have you ever had an idea to spice up your
lovemaking but were afraid of what your partner may
Believe it or not, in 90% of cases, your partner
would LOVE to try something new, too, but they're
just as uncomfortable or embarrassed about bringing
it up as you are.
And you don't need to introduce whips, chains or a
third person. That's nonsense! There are hundreds
of ways to bring variety to your passionate play
that aren't crude or dangerous and that your
partner is sure to be comfortable with.
MISTAKE #2: Trying to convince the partner to make
If your lover is tired or not in the mood for sex,
trying to convince or persuade them to have sex
almost NEVER works.
On the other hand, when a person is sexually
aroused, their body releases the chemical
'adrenaline' into the bloodstream. This chemical is
what gives you the energy to make love. So here's
how to arouse them the right way. Yes, even if
Ladies: Want to get him in the mood? Give him
fellatio or manually stroke him between 9 10 in
the morning. This is when his testosterone levels
are highest for the day. For better results, also
wear something sexy or nothing at all. He'll like
Lads: Deep passionate kisses are one of the biggest
'turn-ons' for women. Looking in her eyes and
touching her face while kissing her can really
increase arousal, too. And give some attention to
her neckit will drive her wild. But don't rush
this! Spend quality time building up her arousal
with your sensual kisses.
MISTAKE #3: Neglecting foreplay to enjoy
People in a relationship (especially men) tend to
neglect foreplay so they can begin to enjoy
intercourse sooner, but did you know that foreplay
is actually said to intensify orgasms?
That's right. If you kiss, caress and touch longer,
you can make your lovemaking even more satisfying.
So SLOW DOWN. Take your time. If you want to make
it even better, tease your partner in a playful
way. (This works like crazy.)
If you find something that they really enjoy, stop
doing it, move back, and then do it again later.
The more you pull back and push forward, the more
they'll want it. And the more intense their
experience will be. There are many games you can
play to heighten this anticipation, too.
MISTAKE #4: Using toys or porn to make your
When sex hits a rough patch, many couples (men
especially) think that a video, some plastic or
vibrating thingy will instantly takes things
through the roof.
Wrong!… While toys can certainly have their place
in your lovemaking repertoire, relying on them can
be extremely dangerous. These outside sources of
pleasure can quickly make lovemaking even less
Why? Because you don't want your partner to end up
looking forward to their plastic toy for pleasure
more than they look forward to pleasure with you,
do you? Couples need to first fully discover how to
please all their spouses' body parts before
introducing other elements. Use them as a spice,
not the main course.
MISTAKE #5: Trying to make the woman orgasm ONLY
Men often feel "unmanly" if they can't satisfy
their woman from intercourse. But what they need to
understand is that a large number of women can't
achieve orgasm through normal lovemaking.
Just knowing this takes the pressure off men
completely. Now there's no need to get upset when
their women don’t reach orgasm. Instead, men should
master the art of cunnilingus (going down on a
MISTAKE #6: Trying to “finish” at the same time
Simultaneous orgasms are quite overrated. Instead
of aiming for one orgasm that you share together,
focus completely on the woman’s needs first.
Hold off from the positions you find most enjoyable
and instead make love in ways that are most
pleasurable for your lady, until she is completely
satisfied. That way you have a much greater chance
of both climaxing.
MISTAKE #7: Sticking to a “set routine” too often
You know the drill. You take your clothes off,
insert part A into part B, and, within a few
minutes, the routine is over. Sound familiar?
No matter how fantastic lovemaking can be, there’s
no denying it can get boring over the years. And
the reason is because lovemaking in its basic act
is always the same. But the danger is letting it
get “too routine,” which can begin to affect your
The BEST WAY to protect your love life and precious
connection with your partner is to have lots of new
lovemaking ideas ready at your disposal.
That's the secret.
In fact, when you have an abundance of NEW tips and
techniques ready, you’ll enjoy more hot, steamy and
passionate lovemaking, discover newfound enthusiasm
to make love and even make love more often.
About the Author:
Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of 500
Lovemaking Tips, a book full of ways to spice up
your lovemaking, adding more passion, pleasure and
intimacy to your experience.
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